Why 3 Inches Shouldn’t Cost You 30 Years of Love

Written By Colin Bovet

Let’s just go there, height.
If you ask most women, they’ll say yes, it matters.
If you ask most men, they’ll say it shouldn’t.
(Especially if they’re 5’6” or shorter.)

But let’s be real: this preference is deeply ingrained.
For many women, a taller partner = a sense of safety, strength, and feeling “feminine.”
It’s primal. It’s social conditioning. It’s every rom-com we’ve ever watched.

But here’s the truth: Height shouldn’t be a deal-breaker.
Because when you're sitting across from someone at dinner, laughing, connecting, falling into that magical back-and-forth flow, you’re basically the same height anyway. AM I RIGHT?

Let’s Put It in Perspective…

Do a quick Google search:
What percentage of men in your ideal dating age range are over 6 feet tall?

Now filter for:

  • The city or region you live in

  • The financial bracket that matters to you (be honest)

  • Your shared values and lifestyle goals

...and you start to see how narrowing your options based on a few inches might be cutting out some incredible humans.

I always say:

"It only takes one person to be your dream partner… so why limit your chances of finding them?"

My Personal Take

I’m 6 feet tall. Before I met my husband, the shortest guy I ever dated was 5’6”. He was muscular, charming, hilarious, and about eight years older. And honestly? He had more swagger than a lot of guys pushing 6'4".

Why? Because he owned it. He walked into the room like he belonged there. That kind of confidence? It’s magnetic for both of you.

And here’s the truth:
👉 There are amazing men out there looking for you, and some of them might be a few inches shorter than your “ideal.” But love isn’t built on inches. It’s built on presence, energy, emotional maturity, and how someone makes you feel.

Height matters… until it doesn’t. When you’re seen, chosen, and loved deeply, a few inches stop feeling like a dealbreaker and start feeling irrelevant.

Tips for Reframing Your Height Hang-Ups (For Men and Women)

  1. Work the room, not the ruler.
    Being confident in your body and vibe is more attractive than any number on a dating profile.

  2. Open-Hearted Dating
    Say yes to someone an inch or two below your usual “type.” See what comes up. Spoiler: It might be chemistry.

  3. Remember: this isn’t Build-A-Boyfriend.
    You’re not customizing a character. You’re building a life with someone.

  4. If you're insecure about your height, especially as a guy, work on building that confidence muscle.
    Therapy, coaching, style upgrades, gym, whatever helps you own your lane. You’re allowed to be magnetic at any height.

Final Thoughts

Dating takes patience and a strong mindset.
Yes, it can feel like a full-time job, sometimes.
But it can also be a fun adventure if you let it.

So while you're out there putting yourself back on the market, don’t let 3 inches keep you from 30 years of love.

And in the meantime?
Grab your single girlfriends.
Order the apps.
Laugh until your stomach hurts.
These are the nights you’ll remember forever.

Need help shifting your mindset or rewriting your dating story?
Let’s talk. I’d love to support you on your journey.

📅 Book a call with me here.

Colin Bovet