Why 3 Inches Shouldn’t Cost You 30 Years of Love
Let’s Just Go There: Height
If you ask most women, they’ll say yes, height matters.
If you ask most men, they’ll say it shouldn’t.
(Especially if they’re 5’6” or shorter.)
This preference is deeply ingrained. For many women, a taller partner = safety, strength, and feeling “feminine.” It’s primal. It’s social conditioning. It’s every rom-com we’ve ever seen.
But here’s what I’ve learned as both a matchmaker and a 6-foot-tall woman: height shouldn’t be a dealbreaker. Because when you’re sitting across from someone at dinner, laughing, connecting, falling into that magical back-and-forth flow… you’re basically the same height anyway. Am I right?
Putting It in Perspective
Do a quick Google search: how many men in your dating age range are actually over 6 feet tall?
Now narrow that pool by:
The city or region you live in
The financial bracket that matters to you (let’s be honest)
Your shared values and lifestyle goals
Suddenly, those “3 inches or taller” requirements don’t leave much room. You could be cutting out incredible humans over something that doesn’t define love.
My Personal Take
I’m 6 feet tall. Before I met my husband, the shortest guy I ever dated was 5’6”. He was muscular, charming, hilarious, and about eight years older. He had more swagger than a lot of guys pushing 6’4”.
Why? Because he owned it. He walked into the room like he belonged there. That kind of confidence is magnetic.
There are amazing men out there, and some of them might not meet your “ideal” height requirement. Love isn’t built on inches. It’s built on presence, energy, emotional maturity, and how someone makes you feel.
Height matters… until it doesn’t. When you’re seen, chosen, and loved deeply, those inches stop feeling like a dealbreaker and start feeling irrelevant.
Tips for Reframing Height Hang-Ups
1. Work the room, not the ruler.
Confidence is more attractive than any number on a dating profile.
2. Practice open-hearted dating.
Say yes to someone an inch or two outside your “type.” Spoiler: You might be surprised by the chemistry.
3. Remember, this isn’t Build-A-Boyfriend.
You’re not customizing a character, you’re building a life with someone.
4. If you’re insecure about height (especially as a guy)…
Invest in yourself. Therapy, coaching, style, fitness, whatever helps you stand taller in your own lane.
Final Thoughts
Dating takes patience and mindset. Yes, it can feel like a full-time job sometimes. But it can also be a fun adventure if you let it.
So while you’re out there putting yourself back on the market, don’t let 3 inches keep you from 30 years of love.
xo,
Danielle Victoriah
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