You’re One Good Question Away from a New Friend

Today I went in for a routine teeth cleaning and left with a full heart and a fresh reminder. Connection is everywhere, even in a dental chair with your mouth half numb.

I had the best conversation with the hygienist. Like, “we could totally be friends” kind of energy. And it all started with a few intentional questions.

Here are three things I was reminded of while chatting with her.

1. The right questions open the door to real connection.
I mentioned that I’m a matchmaker. Yes, I professionally help people find love. Her face lit up. She told me how much she enjoys asking people how they met their spouse.
She shared her favorite story. A couple who met at a high school dance and are now in their late 70s, are still completely in love. The way she lit up telling that story was so pure. You could tell it made her whole day.

2. Curiosity creates conversation.
I asked if she had any fun plans, and she told me about her upcoming trip to Japan with her husband. We talked about the cities they’re visiting, what they’re excited to explore, and how the planning is going. It felt so fun to listen and just be present in her joy.

3. People want to share more than you think.
When I asked, “If you weren’t a dental hygienist, what would you be doing?” she immediately said, “Oh, I’d be a travel agent!”
We laughed and talked about what her dream travel job would look like. That one question gave me a peek into another part of her personality I never would’ve seen otherwise.

Here’s what I want you to remember. If you’re feeling lonely or disconnected, you are always one good question away from a new friend. You are never too old, too busy, too boring, or whatever else your inner critic likes to say. There are people all around you who are open to connection, just waiting for someone to ask.

The opportunity to connect is everywhere. You’ve got this. I am so excited for the conversations that are waiting for you, even in the most unexpected places.

See you at the next Round Table. 💫

Xo,

Danielle Victoriah